Many women around the world can attest to shared experiences of harassment, mockery and belittlement.
The latest medium where the experiences are being shared is on TikTok.
Female content creators have taken the ‘put a finger down’ trend on the app, which works on a similar premise to ‘never have I ever’, to account for every time something sinister has happened to them.
The trend was started by beauty company CEO and makeup artist Sarah Biggers-Stewart who encouraged others to ‘duet’ her video – where users can use her audio and add their own visuals.
And many other women duetted Sarah’s video, putting down a finger any time someone followed them or they had to put keys between their knuckles for fearing for their safety.
Sarah told her followers that she wanted to share her truth and the female reality which many can relate to.
Her video has since been replicated by 10,000 other users, many of whom are young teenagers.
Some of the sentences Sarah says include: ‘Put a finger down if you’ve been drugged, put a finger down if a friend has been drugged. If you’ve been sexually touched inappropriately if you freak out if you hear a man running behind you.’
Other lines include: ‘Put a finger down if you did something with a man you didn’t want to do because you were worried about your own safety.’
Sarah also added further comments to her video to make her message clearer.
She wrote: ‘This is not about hating men. My intention is to spread awareness of what reality looks like for so many of us.
‘It’s often glossed over as an outlier experience when in reality, most (but not all) women I know have dealt with these things and feel alone.’
She continued: ‘Here’s what I’m going to say and I’m only going to say this once. Men are absolutely victims too and not all men are perpetrators. I never have and never would say any different.
‘I will always support men who come forward with their stories, it’s still underrepresented by our media and still frowned upon within our society.
‘But taking videos for women-specific to women’s experiences and trying to co-opt them with your message of ‘not all men’ and ‘what about men?’ – it’s invalidating as hell.’